'Positive Parenting'- Key to your child's holistic growth

Mar 24, 2022

The ancient saying, 'Mother is Child's first God and home its first school' holds good at all times. Parents are truly the child's 'heroes'. In the school, teachers chip in to extend that role at least for a few hours a day.   Do not look at only the physical/biological age of your child. Your child has three 'ego states' namely 'parent Ego State', 'Adult Ego State', and 'Child Ego State'.  Eric Berne who propounded 'Transactional Analysis'  talks at length on how each one of us has these three Ego States. You may be a biological parent with all features of growing age while your child has the 'Parent Ego State'. Take care then while dealing with your children. Your tender child at times can throw as many tantrums as you do as a physically aged parent.  Positive Parenting is a process of nurturing them with love, care, and attention.  Psychologists suggest that we as parents take the following steps towards ensuring the holistic growth of children.

• Garden gets beautiful only when flowers in it blossom. By the same token, your classrooms become meaningful with the children showing the signs of these four Ls namely 'Listening, Learning, Loving and Leaving legacy'.

• Explain to your children why you and your parents are different from your children. This helps them know the 'generation gap'. Down the line, they learn how to live with differences among people.

• Remember that you are as old in parenting as your first child. Use that experience, legacy, and insight in parenting.

• Do not ever belittle your children. In the space of understanding and empathy, your children can blossom all too suddenly like flowers do when the season strikes.

• Your children can read your face and understand feelings faster than anyone. Take care of your language, expression and general outlook. You have no idea how much your children are following you.

Nitte International School, a leading school in North Bengaluru values the growing needs of its budding students for wholesome development. Teachers are well equipped with child psychology inputs and requirements.

By: Dr. N J Shetty, Ph.D., M.Com, MBA, MA(Psy), PG. DHRM, PG. DMM, LL. B, CAIIB, D. TD, Pragya, Professor, NSOM, Certified NLP Practitioner, Certified Life Coach, Certified OD Coach.